not a judy ann santos, ryan agoncillo post.

I remember Ryan Agoncillo saying in an interview, that he had to separate himself from Judy Ann Santos for a while. Something that he had to do to find out if they were really in love or if their feelings were borne out of proximity.

Many relationships fail because, as sad as it may sound, couples only had pseudo-love. The kind of feeling you acquire for being too close and for being used to each others company. Since you see each other everyday and you bond almost everyday, you thought that you were bit by the love bug.

This kind of delusion creates pseudo-special relationships. The kind of relationship you’ll enjoy for a while and will turn out to be boring once time gets by. The longer you stay, the weaker your feeling for each other gets. Maybe because once couples decide to level-up, a certain element that can only be found in non-commitment is lost.

Certain elements change, the dynamics change, feelings change, relationships change.

But what if, feelings were borne out of distance? A typical story of girl-meets-boy, or boy-meets-girl, or boy-meets-boy, or girl-meets-girl over the Internet/YM/social networking sites/whatever. Will things fall apart once they meet? Will something change if the tattered cloak of anonymity and pretentious identities were taken off? Will the relationship exist after goodbyes?

One of my professors said that everything is a matter of mimesis. If that’s the case, can we trace the genealogy of such types of relationships and can we ever pin down results of what happened anchored in real life?

It is easy to say yes or no. Until you realize that everything is just a blur and you’ll end up thinking forever.