notes on relationship.

For a relationship to be a relationship, two entities must be present. Absence of another spells fail. Even the dictionary defines “relationship” as the state of being interrelated.

Relationships are also based on the idea of reciprocity. One of the members of the relationship will initiate an action, the other needs to deliver a response (not necessarily a reaction, something noncanonical) and vice versa.

Some relationships are healthy, some are not. A decaying body-soil relationship is healthy, a mussel-barnacle relationship is not.

Occurrences in a relationship will revolve on what is natural. So that when you throw a chicken in a pool of two alligators, don’t expect one of the alligators to be philanthropic. It is natural for them to fight and struggle to get that whole chicken for themselves. In the same way that when one initiates a fight, with accusations being thrown and all, don’t expect the other to pray the novena for the intercession of the angels and saints. If you want a fight, then you will get a fight. It is just natural.

In a relationship, it is possible to love and stop there – devoid of any labels, commitments, and shit.

In any relationship, there is a fine line that exists between being sensitive and being assuming. Remember: Do not assume unless stated. Avoid pain.

Are you in a relationship?

Relationships thrive on the presence of one another. The urge to be together will always be present. But sometimes LESS is MORE. The less time you see each other, the more you value time when you’re together.

They say everybody deserves a second chance. Relationships will pass through rough roads, but if you want to make it last, give him/her another chance. But if that’s the case, does it mean that we’re free to waste our first chance?

We always search for the ideal girl/guy. But my Religion teacher back in high school said that we’ll only meet failure every time. So what’s the point of searching? He said that the ideal girl/guy doesn’t exist in real life. It exists up there. It can never be attained. What we should do is to search for that person who can best approximate our ideals. A call to be realistic. This reminds me of Plato.

Rafael had a girlfriend. Until one day, his girlfriend came up to him and said, “I told him I like him.” She was referring to another guy. They broke up. In theory, two entities must be present to be in a relationship. In practice, it is possible to have one entity is in a relationship, while the other flutters like a butterfly.

When relationships end, should it really end?

Or like endings, should we expect something else?